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Let's Talk - Fashion & Our Personal Style

March 17, 2018

Happy Saturday readers, welcome back!

Another Let's Talk segment has come round and it's time for another topic to be up for discussion, this week it's all about fashion and how certain styles appeal to us in different ways. This week I'm joined by:

Gemma - @Gmmlsknny on Twitter and she owns the Openly Project on Twitter (@Openlyproject).

Molly - @Mollyb_blogs on Twitter and her blog can be found at https://www.mollybarhamdesigns.com/home

Gemma's thoughts: "When Ralph Lauren said Personal style is about having a sense of yourself and what you believe in every day, he managed to perfectly sum up my own view on personal style. It's easy to follow fashion, but knowing and understanding your personal style is much more complex. I believe that style speaks to every person you encounter, before you've even said a word. It reflects personality, and I love that. I went through a stage in my life where my personality and my style were massively disconnected. I gained a lot of weight and personally I didn't feel comfortable wearing the style of clothing that I enjoy, so I just wore whatever would 'hide' my body. I'm only just starting to come out of that phase and honestly, it feels so good!

If someone were to ask me to describe my style, I'd say that I enjoy mixing aspects of 70's fashion, bohemian and festival style. However I suppose I'd just sum it up as 'Boho Chic'. To me, Bohemian style conveys a free-spirited, creative, carefree, chill and independent attitude. That is how I am as an individual and I love that I've found a style that helps me to reflect those qualities on the outside! Stevie Nicks, Anita Pallenberg, Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen, Vanessa Hudgens, Sienna Miller, Kourtney Kardashian, Kendall Jenner and Nicole Richie have all been style inspirations for me over the years. They have rocked some seriously gorgeous outfits. Festival season provides a lot of inspiration, and I even have a secret Tumblr blog where I store pictures of style inspiration. It's a little bit of an obsession. No shame.

Shopping this style can prove pretty difficult I won't lie. Not to mention expensive. There are jaw-dropping beautiful brands like Free People, Boho Street, BohoChic.co.uk, but you can expect to blow about £50-£100+ for one dress. If you're looking to spend a little less, your best bet is to go onto sites like ASOS, H&M, Topshop etc, and type 'boho' into their search bars. H&M also do a 'H&M loves Coachella' range through Spring and Summer that features some gorgeous boho/festival inspired pieces.

Jewellery stacking is a huge favourite of mine! I adore stacked rings and bracelets. You got it, I am that glorious jingly sound following you around. You are welcome. My favourite stores to buy Bohemian jewellery from are BohoMoon, Indie and Harper and Druzy Dreams. Seriously, check them out. They're a dream. insert drooling emoji.

I guess the message I'd like end this post with is to try not to worry what people are thinking of you. Or what you're wearing. Whatever style means to you, embrace that and be loud about it. Who cares if you're clashing colours, or showing too much skin, or not enough skin?! As that old saying goes: 'Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind'. Life is short."

My thoughts: "If you asked me what fashion was currently popular and the #1 style in my age group at this point in time I'd be absolutely clueless! I see certain trends and fashions taking off now and again and I've even taken part in some - remember when chokers made a comeback? Green parkas with the fluffy hoods? Primark's endless Harry Potter clothes? Yep I took part in all of those.

However my style isn't something I always find in stores near me; I've always been a fan of darker clothes, band shirts, faux leather jackets, fishnet tights and gloves and ripped style dresses and shirts. When I was 17 - 19 years old you'd probably have seen me with an Asking Alexandria shirt, lip rings, Converse shoes, skinny jeans and a studded belt around my waist - those days are mostly gone but there are days I fondly remember them with a smile. I still have my band shirts in my wardrobe somewhere that I wear at home to chill out in, I'm glad I kept them!

While I still like my black, faux leather and fishnets style I also have a complete contrast taste to this for some cases; I never used to be a dress person but the last couple of years have seen me adopting more a range of dresses in various lengths, colours, materials and styles. These make me feel like an absolute queen when I pair them with a pair of equally sparkly or elegant heels and some of my best jewellery. As I get older I see more and more of these looks that appeal to my more fancy side and it's only the lack of funds that keep me buying them all - for now!

I've always loved a mixture of styles and it goes hand in hand with my personality because I never settle for just one category of anything, for one I've always been a huge Lady Gaga fan and her wacky looks inspired some of my own outrageous looks (not a meat dress though don't worry). Being a fan of someone who holds no boundaries on fashion has put me through some crazy phases; during her Born This Way era I adorned huge heels, the thickest eyeliner I could apply and the pointiest of false nails. This is a massive difference to her ARTPOP era in which I painted my face in bright colours, worse art themed dresses and I teased my hair into the puffy curls she often worse. Her most recent era Joanne made me favour plain white shirts, shorts and boots like her Perfect Illusion visuals - she's honestly always giving me new ideas!

I will continue to constantly adopt new ideas and new styles ideas as I grow up and watch the fashion world evolve, I love a fresh style concept and I can't wait to see what takes my fancy next!"

Molly's thoughts: "I’m sure I’m not the only person that struggles with this. First dates are a huuuuge deal and what you wear is just one of the many factors that decides whether there is a next time!

I’m not going to lie, this is something that massively stresses me out. I know deep down that men just aren’t bothered by what you wear, and that doesn’t affect how you get on with each-other, but to me it feels like it plays a big part in how you present yourself. The prettier, and comfier you feel, the more confident and yourself you will be!

Winter is usually fairly simple to dress to, if it’s a cosy pub in the cold you are going to, then I usually chuck on a simple woolly jumper (my fav is a pale pink one from River Island!) and some jeans, with some funky boots – depending on the jumper, I like to either wear my black heeled ankle boots, or if I want to mix it up a bit I tend to go for my leopard print small heeled ankle boots. These are the best sort of shoes to go for, nothing too high of course but a simple boot is always attractive (and it makes your legs look longer if you’re a short arse like me!)

Summer is equally just as easy, depending on the weather of course. But, with a day date at the park for a picnic, or a trip to the zoo in the sun, it’s always lush to rock a nice summery dress/playsuit and converse (or sandals if it’s realllllllly warm!).

The struggle comes mostly during the Autumn and Spring seasons. It’s not quite warm but not quite cold, the weather is so unpredictable, and it turns into a nightmare trying to fit this in with the clothes you have! You end up traipsing round endless shops trying to find the perfect ‘nice top’ to pair with your jeans. Then you have the coat or no coat dilemma… it’s just never-ending! Luckily, missguided have blessed us with their ‘Jeans and a nice top’ section – never again will we worry about finding a nice top!

Once you have found that perfect outfit that just makes you feel like, well, YOU, whether it be a very colourful outfit, or an all-black outfit, that is when magic happens. Because when you feel great, when you look great, you give off such an amazing energy that just couldn’t be forced elsewhere.

I know that once I’ve paired my jeans and a nice top together, with some fabulous heeled booties, I always run to my Boutique of Molly – Florence bag. If you’ve not seen it, or have it yet, check it out here (https://www.boutiqueofmolly.com/product-page/florence) because this bag is seriously a lifesaver. It’s a gorgeous colour, pairs so well with anything, and is at the right size so you don’t feel like you’re over packing for the pub or your local cinema!

“On the first date, men worry about what they’re going to say while women worry about what they’re going to wear.”"

Thank you to my writers this week for their hard work and to my readers for giving this weeks segment a read! Until next week!


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  2. Personal styles are the first impression we give out to the world. While it's important to look good, it's even better to be comfortable and confident! My "style" is a pretty toned down, casual sort of style and while it might not look glamorous, I'm comfortable wearing it and that's all that matters to me.
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    1. That sounds like a great view on your own style and I agree! Thanks for reading xx