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Bullies; Who Are They?

October 18, 2017

Bullies - When we think of a bully we all have our own mental image come to mind; some people think of a kid at school, some people may even think of a parent, others can even think of their partners.
But the truth is bullies can be anyone we know in our child, adolescent or adult life, the thing they all have in common is that they are a negative force in our lives. My bullies were kids in my class who mocked my every word and thought, who waited for me at lunch to harass me and throw their cruel words at me. My bullies were work colleagues who resented the fact that I was the youngest in our group and harassed me and picked on me to make themselves feel better. My bully was also a parent, ironic huh? Someone who is meant to protect and help you actually making you feel scared and helpless...and it happens more than people would think. My bully was an ex boyfriend who treated me like I wasn't good enough and I believed it, until the idea of upsetting them frightened me and made me scared of the consequences.
Bullies can be anyone, you might not notice it if they are a family, partner or friend but they can be at any point in our lives. But all of these bullies can be defeated one way or another, if you're being bullied by someone close to you or at school or work my advice to you is this: tell someone. Go to the police, tell a teacher, tell your boss, gather some friends for courage and support and then share your story with someone that can help. It can be so hard, trust me I know but when you do put it out there the steps that can be taken to help you can start to fall into place.
Bullies aren't cool, they're the worst thing anyone can experience. If you are a victim of bullying and are going through this right now I understand and I'm always here should someone need to talk; tweet me, DM me, inbox me on Facebook and for those who have my number call me or text me.
Itsallzara

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  1. This is very true .. so beautifully written.

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    1. Thank you lovely, thanks for reading! xx

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  2. This is such a brave and honest post, thanks so much for sharing this with us. ❤️ you're so right in that bullies can be absolutely anyone, and that's so sad :( sending my love xx

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  3. I was a victim of bullying when I was at school. She used to be a really good friend of mine but suddenly changed behavior towards me when she decided to be seen as a "cool kid". It made my high school years awful and back then, I didn't realize it was bullying

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    1. I had a friend like that too! Was a nightmare, sorry to hear you experienced that, thanks for reading xx

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  4. I sympathised with this so much, you're right, bullies can take many forms. School was totally the worst, but at work there's a persistent 'bully' too. But at this age when I feel stronger I just remind myself to be the bigger person :)

    sophieannetaylor.com

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    1. Bullies can be everywhere, but you're right to be strong and be the better person! xx

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  5. Amazing post Zara - sometimes you dont even realise who these people are until you take a step back from the situation. You are a very strong person and I really admire that you can write so openly about a topic like this!

    Sarah | http://www.sazsinclair.com xx

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  6. Thank you for opening up about your experiences. I've been severely bullied as well and I know it's not easy. Its admirable that you've made yourself available to those who may need your help! God bless xo

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    1. Sorry to hear about your bullying experience, and thank you for reading xx

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  7. Oh Zara this is such an important post! Bullying is absolutely awful! I've had my fair share over the years and even now I see it between the little kids in school and it's breaks my heart!
    PaleGirlRambling xo
    http://palegirlrambling.co.uk

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    1. Thank you honey I absolutely hate bullies and bullying in general, its dreadful to see xx

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  8. You are definitely right, bullies can be anyone, anywhere. I thought I was done with them after I left high school only to have to deal with them at work, worst of all, having to be nice to them because they were customers. They're everywhere.

    Jess | queensapphire.co.uk

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    1. They are everywhere and more awareness needs to be made of it, this is why I took the courage to speak out! xx

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  9. I'm sorry to hear about all those loved ones bullying you that's not right. That's why it's good to find something to live for, and having values to live by. When you do you will feel good about yourself because you chose a standard to live by and you know you're doing the right thing. Trying to live my life in a way that please God really helped me to shut out ppl who try to put me down, because I know within myself I'm doing the right thing

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    1. I completely agree, thank you for your comment xx

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  10. I have to say I didn't enjoy reading your post because it brought back bad memories for me. I was bullied at school (in common with many other people, it seems). My bullies were older girls who used to wait for me to come outside and then spit mouthfuls of water at me. I've also been bullied at work by older women who resented me for being younger and because I was their manager. I didn't tell a teacher or another manager because I was embarrassed and thought I somehow deserved it. But I didn't. And perhaps if I had spoken up the bullying would have stopped. Thank you for such an honest post, and such good advice. It's advice I would urge anyone being bullied to follow, bullies are not cool and should not be allowed to get away with making others' lives miserable. X

    Lisa | www.lisasnotebook.com

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    1. That is so awful I'm sorry you went through that, you're very brave xx

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